Forty Mistakes Men Make In Bed With A Woman

If you thought the path to sexual bliss was simple, look at this list of mistakes made by men when they're having sex. If any of them seem familiar, you've got some work to do on your bedroom etiquette!

1) Going straight for her vulva, clitoris or breasts

A woman is probably going to be irritated than sexually aroused when a man goes for her breasts and vulva after a bit of kissing. Be sensitive and touch her sexual parts only when she's already aroused. If you go for her breasts when you start foreplay and twiddle her nipples like you're tuning a radio station, you're not going to get a very good reception.

2) Not knowing how to kiss romantically

Passionate kissing is an art form which eases you both into the main event of sex and promotes intimacy. Learn how to kiss your woman, and do it well. That doesn't include sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around like you're trying to clean her teeth.

3) Not respecting her erogenous zones

Men like to have a firm touch applied to their dick. But if you approach her clitoris with the same as you apply to your penis when you're treating Mr. Happy to a quick morning massage, she's likely to howl with pain - and then she'll probably kick you out of bed. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, so it's very sensitive. Treat it accordingly.

4) Not stroking her gently

A woman's biggest sex organ is her mind. The next biggest is her skin. If you were thinking of anything else, think again. For a woman, sex is all about making connection. And that includes skin to skin contact. An hour spent massaging her will not only get her in the mood for sex, but it will almost certainly guarantee she has an orgasm one way or another. Make sure you focus on putting your sexual energy into your fingers while you stroke. That means not thinking distractedly about the baseball game while you're oiling her up.

5) Locking onto her nipples like a suckling child

Tempting though it may be to lavish your oral attention on her breasts, she's not going to want you reminding her of the last time a teething child bit into her nipple. Kiss all around her breasts and gently work towards her nipple, gently licking it with your tongue and maybe carefully sucking it between your lips when she's really aroused. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of pleasure.

6) Biting or blowing on her ear because you think it's sexy

Very few women seem to find this exciting. Your time would be better spent searching out her sensitive zones elsewhere.

7) Leaving a kiss bite on her neck

If you're an adult, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under age and you shouldn't be having sex.

8) Not shaving before sex

Think what it was like the last time you gave oral sex to a woman with a few days' stubble around her vulva. Now imagine that brushing back and forth on your face in the erotic throes of passionate kissing. Enough said?

9) Not washing your pits and bits before you make love

Even if you just have what the French call a tart's wash, make sure you're a smell-free zone when you enter the bedroom. (In case you need to know - the male equivalent is washing your penis, balls, ass, and armpits.)

10) Forgetting that foreplay starts a long time before sex

Every woman wants to be appreciated. If you touch her lovingly all day, show how much you love her, and take the trouble to make sure she knows you're thinking of her, she'll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime. Leaving loving little billets-douxwhere she'll find them is also a good idea. But make sure they are romantic!

11) Penetrating her before she's ready

Yes, we know you're a man, and we know you're obsessed with penetration. But hold on. Take your time, let events move at their own pace, and only pluck the fruit when you know it's really ripe and dripping juice. While men forget that women like to be entered just as much as men (which is just as well, when you think how much men like to stick things up a woman), she'll only want this when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. So as you finger her clit, surreptitiously check out her cunt. If it's moist and open, she may well be receptive to a finger on her G-spot. Start gently and apply a firmer touch as you go. If you don't know what the G-spot is, go check it out on the internet.

12) Going for her clitoris during oral sex or masturbation

Most women just find this annoying - and very uncomfortable too, if the clit isn't aroused and slippery. Work from around her labia, the lips of her vulva, towards the clitoris as she gets more aroused. Even then, a subtle touch along the shaft of her clitoris around to the side of the clitoral head may be better for her.

3) Slowing down when she wants you to keep going till she comes

If she's nearing orgasm she certainly won't want you to stop whatever you're doing, whether it's with your cock, your fingers or your tongue. Since cunnilingus is hard on the tongue, we suggest you make sure your fingers are ready in reserve if you get a bad case of cramp. If she's not saying much, she may be lying there silent because she's got lost in her excitement, not because you're licking ineffectively at her vulva. But then again, how would you know? She may be so excited by what you're doing that she shows it by pressing her vulva more firmly against your mouth or fingers, in which case give her more of your touch. If she gives off an aura that she'd rather be out shopping, you need to think of something else. Like asking her what she wants, maybe?

14) Undressing her clumsily

Listen up guys: you don't have to struggle with those zips while you kiss her. Indeed, she might well appreciate it more if you don't even try. Nothing about an underwear fumble is funny, when it interrupts the romance. Let her take off the clothes you don't know about and when you do help, make it look like you're delicately removing her garments rather than pulling at her clothes like you can't wait to fuck her - even if you that's true.

15) Looking like a clown in the bedroom

Nothing is more comical to a woman than a man wearing his underpants and shoes. Why this should be so remains a mystery, since it seems so natural to a man to undress like that. However, if you don't want her to take pity on you, take off your socks first.

16) Expecting her to shave for you

Yes, we know you like the shaven vulvas, but if she's not into shaving, don't put pressure on her to smooth it out for you. There are few things more annoying than itchy stubble in the groin. If you want to see more and have easier access to her pussy, ask her to lightly trim the hair.

17) Entering her without asking her first

Such a bizarre idea! And yet so nice - occasionally, at least - to be romantic and ask "May I enter you?" This can be a very exciting and loving way to go if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, you'll be in the the man on top position, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex. And then again, there are times when you can just sense the moment for penetration - but don't let your judgment be affected by how much you want to get your penis inside her. Yes, we know the urge is hard to resist. But be a man - and make sure she's ready first.

18) Probing around her vagina with your penis if you can't get in

This will turn her off at once - guaranteed. If you can't find the way in (it happens) on your own, tell her what's going on and ask her to guide your penis in. There's no shame in that, but acting like a klutz can ruin sex for you both. And anyway, it'll be quicker if she just puts it in for you.

19) Pumping away without regard for her pleasure

Now you're in! Hurrah! But where do you go from here? Vigorous thrusting? Bad idea.....surely you'll want to show some consideration for her pleasure? So make sure you start with slow and shallow thrusts. When you make love, she'll like it best if you act like a real man: be confident, know what you're doing, be thoughtful and gentle at first, and work up to harder and more vigorous thrusts if she starts moaning with pleasure (as in "oh, yes, fuck me harder!").

20) Expecting her to willingly offer her bottom to you when you want rear entry sex

It's a male thing, the desire for rear entry sex. Mostly. Then again, women sometimes get the urge for rampant, primal sex too. In between, you might get it on special occasions, if you're lucky. And if you do persuade her to indulge you, don't make the mistake of slapping her rump like you're riding a horse.

21) Getting carried away when you have a big penis

If you happen to have a big penis, restrain yourself as you thrust, or you might hear her shriek as you hit her cervix. This will not, probably, be a shriek of delight. It may, however, signal the end of your pleasure for now.

22) Premature ejaculation is not the mark of a good lover

Very few men have the endurance that allows them to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and G-spot stimulation. You can improve your staying-power with self help exercises, but if you just can't be bothered, at least have the consideration to keep going for long enough to give her some pleasure. Do some research on Google for "end premature ejaculation".

23) Not coming at all - delayed ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation is not a good thing. She won't see it as in any way attractive, either, when her cunt is bone dry, she's bored out of her mind and you still aren't going to come. So if you are one of the men who have trouble reaching orgasm, go see a sexual therapist! The sooner you get treated, the sooner she'll be able to enjoy sex with you and stop having plenty of time to think about the exact shade of paint to put on the bedroom ceiling.

24) Losing your erection when you put the condom on

If you're one of the many men who find that Mr Happy goes to sleep when the condom makes an appearance, it's back to Google for you. Try a search on "losing erection when putting on a condom" and see if you can find a solutions.

25) Not being willing to go down on her when she wants oral pleasure

Most men like the idea of going down on a woman, so any reservations must be about her smell or taste. If she's a bit well, fishy, then suggest a bath as part of foreplay. If all you're interested in is getting her to suck your cock and you won't reciprocate, reading these tips isn't going to help you much anyway.

26) Failing to ensure her pleasure if you come quickly

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