Optimism Is Necessary, Clarity Essential
James Burgess
Each of us is pushed and pulled by the requirements of society, parents, governments and teachers and in addition to all of this we have to deal with pressure from our equals too.
Optimism Is Necessary, Clarity Essential: No: Fundamentally this whole issue is about learning how to say No cleanly and clearly. By and large many of us have a real and important need to become a lot clearer about what we are trying to achieve. This concerns everything, from everyday practical matters to avoiding unpleasant feelings. The problem is to achieve a clear mind and then to find the solutions to problems. The 7 Words System offers a simple innate practice that allows us to access a greatly improved sense of what it is that we are looking for. This opens with No. First and foremost we will need to identify precisely what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.
Optimism Is Necessary, Clarity Essential: Hello: Being open to new understandings is certainly likely to help. The following stage relates to the word Hello. We may well have to open up to new ways to see everything if we are to open out our range of keys to the troubles that life throws up. We surely know that? To get something new we will need to extend our scope and look where we have not formerly looked earlier. Fresh dreams, new friends, new situations and new things are clearly facets of giving consideration to something we have not previously lived through. It calls us to trade old for new, that we have something to offer in reasonable return for what we want to acquire for ourselves.
Optimism Is Necessary, Clarity Essential: Thanks: There may be a gentle way forward, based on developing a closer level of rapport. Among all existing options, some are more attractive than others and we give them a higher value, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Repeatedly, we overlook the meaning of what we have, fall into thanklessness and are likely to assume what should not be assumed.It's more than simply civility to display our appreciation for things we attach importance to; it has an important effect in helping us to realize our ends. In some unconscious way, we are drawn to what we pronounce gratefulness for, and yet it's equally correct to say that we can to magnetize them to us too. We build up our pull when we say Thanks and therefore, if we do so, we smoothly bring things to us.
Optimism Is Necessary, Clarity Essential: Goodbye: Theres always a bottom line if pressure becomes bullying and bullying becomes victimization, then its time to confront or leave: the basic survival instinct of fight or flight. Goodbye is one of the seven primary words and relates to a course of development that has four stages. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. Goodbye is being said to a particular stage of development, and therefore could be distinguished simply as unreserved exclusion of a viable course of action that we had been moving towards and in future will not pursue. It is a turning point in our choice of would-be futures. Goodbye is different from No in that it is clear that we have had connection already, which now needs to end compared to No's repudiation in the first place. Genuine decisions cut the past away unreservedly and that penetration makes an opening that otherwise does not appear.
Optimism Is Necessary, Clarity Essential: Please: Instead of focusing on the problem, try becoming very clear about the solution. The future develops according to the things considered normal of what has gone before unless we take control of it and bend it to our will. This forces us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, specific and positive converted into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is a bit unreal and the second is much more directed and deliberate.For a dream to become real there must be cooperation. Nothing can be achieved without gaining the assistance of others - this takes skill, maybe arguments, even stimulation. It is not always obligatory to tender something such as money or money's worth.
Optimism Is Necessary, Clarity Essential: Sorry: Be very clear that there is no cause for anyone to blame and punish you. Sorry, the 6th primary word, is best seen as making good damage done whenever we've been thoughtless or oblivious to the circumstances of someone else. The best idea is to make sure we forestall the need to say it by being understanding earlier. For what reason? Well it's because anyone we upset may well act against us and reduce our odds of achievement of our goals, so it is obviously more sensible to be concerned about others as well as ourselves. It is all about being responsible, having a degree of feelings towards someone whom we've upset and making penance when we've got it wrong. Only then will it ever be possible to forestall or patch up resentment and release the lasting unpleasantness that otherwise would strengthen and be a source of bitterness,.
Optimism Is Necessary, Clarity Essential: Yes: There are some situations when, actually, acceptance is the answer. What resists persists! The final phase of our 7 Words technique relates with acceptance; there are instances when we simply have to endure what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be nice wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in reality we can't. We always need to tolerate what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for.The best secret is to have an expectation that everything in the end turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when understood in the perspective of the longer term. Indeed it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! Still hold your fire and you may well see that the serendipitous occurrences, the surprises and disenchantments are actually the best bits masquerading as misfortune.
James Burgess 2009
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