How To Build Your Self-Worth: 5 Easy Steps

Self-worth is the foundation stone of self-confidence. It is all about a sense of how you value yourself. It stands to reason. If you don't know how to value yourself, you may get easily pushed and pulled about by events and the needs and views of other people. Your sense of self-worth can cause you to make great � or less-than-great -choices for yourself. If you find yourself being undervalued, unacknowledged, or always ending up with second- or third - best, take a few minutes to get really clear on YOUR values. Then you'll have a reference point to help guide and direct you in any and all situations.

1. Play this little game to establish your values and their priorities. Write down 5 or 6 values (more if you like) on separate slips of paper. For example: honesty: compassion: freedom: integrity: safety. When you have established a set of values, you need to place them in a priority order, so ask this question: -: -

�If I could take only three values to a desert island with me, which ones would they be? Choose three and then ask yourself this question: -"Which of these three would I never, ever want to be without?"?

Once you have done this, you can then establish the order of those remaining. This will help you to gain a sense of what's important to you and what is at the core of your value system.

2. If you find that sometimes you are doing things you really don't want to � but feel that you must do - think about this. There is only one commodity that you have that is limited and irreplaceable. The commodity I refer to is time. And when time is gone, it's gone. Hard but true. So imagine that you are looking back at your life from a day way into your old age and ask yourself �How did I spend my most precious earthly commodity (time) and did I get full value from it?�

3. Learn the power of saying �no�. Saying �yes� to things you don't really like or value can lead you to waste your time and eat away at your self-esteem. A simple �no thanks� or �that's not for me but it's nice of you to ask� or �I'd rather not� is often all you need to do to reclaim your power. If you're asked to do more than you feel you can within a work situation, then you need to negotiate this issue within the framework of what you have contracted to do.

4. Make an appointment to give yourself some time. Just take a pencil and write �me� or your name in � whether it's for half-an-hour or half a day. If you write it into your diary like this, then you will find it much easier to stick to, as you can truthfully tell others that that time is already booked. Use that time to do something for YOU.

5.Write a few lines about a time in your life when you did something that made you feel very proud of yourself. Next, write yourself a letter - it can be a couple of lines or as many pages as you like - and tell yourself how proud you are of what you did.

Remember, you are a unique, one-off, never-to-be-repeated individual and as such you and your life experiences are priceless. Give yourself the gift of honouring your values and enjoy the difference in your life.

About The Author Debs de Vries helps people enjoy their lives and get more out of them by providing relaxation and coaching sessions based on a meditation/relaxation approach. She is also the UKs Number One provider of guided relaxations and over 300,000 of her podcasts have been downloaded worldwide. To hear a free sample go to: =>http://thewellnessaudioshop.co.uk