Dating Diva Christine Valory Dating Adventure 7 I Love You

Dating Diva Adventure 7 - I Love You

I was in a professional setting networking and marketing when I met this gentleman. He is attractive, a little arrogant and fun! I was meeting with and speaking to many of his colleagues when he pulled me aside to get my attention. He was interested in networking with me on a professional level, however he was more interested in getting to know me on a personal level. He seemed like a bit of an ass to me at first because he is a confident man however he is very witty and articulate. He asked me out to dinner the next night and I accepted, I was flattered by the level of attention he gave me right of the bat. He seemed to almost hone in on me so to speak and it was fun. He is also into some extreme sports like I am besides dating…lol and so from the moment we met we had a lot in common.

We had texted some back and forth between when we met and when we went out to dinner and apparently I had confused him because we were talking about business and he was also flirting with me. I was super busy those couple of days and was not glued to my phone texting and so he actually felt a bit put off because I was not responding flirtatiously or quickly. Personally…I did not even realize, I figured we were going to have dinner 36 hours after we first met…so I did not think much of it.

I was looking forward to dinner and what could start! He is attractive, kind, fun, witty and so this was going to be fun. We met in Pasadena for dinner and from the moment I walked up he texted me, Looking good beautiful. It felt like something out of a movie…I was wearing a long sun dress and the wind was blowing as I was walking down the street.

At first it felt magical, I was enjoying his company and the conversation. The atmosphere in the restaurant was perfect and it felt good to be around him.

Then after about an hour…we both did not feel the time pass he took my hands from across the table and starts sort of massaging them or caressing them. He then goes on to tell me how he wants to get married, start a family and spend all his time with the right woman. He then goes on to tell me how amazing I am, how beautiful I am, how accomplished and professional…it goes on and on. OMG! Seriously? A bit overwhelming for me!

Sounds like every womans dream right? Well let me give you some perspective…I had me the guy less than 36 hours earlier in a professional setting. So we did not have more than 20 minutes of conversation, we did not speak again until we met for dinner that night and we had only been sitting there for an hour or so. Get my point?

HE BARELY KNEW ME!!! He was basically talking about me being the mother of his children!!! Men, this does not feel special!!! It is like you have had a hole in your life and I appear to be the woman you are looking for and you are ready to place me in that hole and YOU DO NOT EVEN KNOW ME!!! OMG! Seriously?

Then we continued talking, the conversation was going well…other than that. He came over and sat next to me and then abruptly kissed me and said, I just wanted to see how you would react. OMG!!! SERIOUSLY??? That threw me over the edge.

I felt overwhelmed and put off…he was so kind and fun but seemed like he was trying to force a relationship or connection or lifetime with me before he even gave me the chance to get to know him or give himself the chance to get to know me… UGH!!!

Needless to say that was our only date, again, he is actually a great guy…I just could not see myself with him.

Thoughts anyone?

Yours truly,

the Dating Diva (fyi…this was not a title I was going after…but what else do I call myself after all of this???)

Honestly, I feel like Charlotte from Sex and the City in the episode where she says: I am tired! Where is he? I have been dating since I was 16! I am exhausted!

Seriously, for all of you guys out there…just be yourselves. Most of us are looking for our Partner in Crime and so relax and let us get to know you and get to know us because when you say what you think we wanna hear or try to make us fall in love with you from hour 1 – it never works!

About The Author This blog is from me: the Dating Diva, who has had dates and been picked up on, where I thought to myself, OMG!!! Seriously? Did that really just happen or am I just hallucinating?? I am sure you are wondering who I am, so here is a little bit about myself! I am a woman who is educated: a graduate of the University of California, I have worked in professional settings since I was a teenager in many industries including finance, real estate, government, education and operations. I have been told that I may sound like a super high maintenance diva because of this blog! Which I think is funny because I am one of the most low maintenance women I know! Half the shoes I own, I bought at Target!!! Its just that when it comes to dating there just a few things I expect especially at the beginning. The first thing is common courtesy also known as manners, so if a man is rude or unkind from a phone call or first it says a lot about who he is. The second thing is someone who has a bit of social awareness and discretion, such as knowing NOT to pull out deep dark secrets on a first date or NOT to make kissy faces at me in public when I have only ever spent an hour with you! The the third thing is a man who is truly interested in me and getting to know me; I do not just want to fill a hole or void in someones life, I want to be truly special to that person. I do not want to be bored by the stories I do not often post on this site are the ones where the guy is nice and kind but I am bored. If I am bored on a first date, what is going to happen after three months? THESE ARE ALL REAL LIFE STORIES!!! If you ever thought that it was only you, well its not! The guys and some girls out there can be FREAKS! So, if you are in the mood for a funny story or are bored with your own happy relationship and want to see what it is like for us single gals as well enjoy the ride! Stories ranging from men who make kissy faces in public, to those who are hard of hearing or ones who want to propose on the first date!! I also welcome your stories, insights and thoughts on my adventures! If you have ever thought to yourself, OMG Seriously this is the site for you! I would love to post your stories too! So if you have any you would like to submit and get my opinion of it, send it to me at datingdiva97@gmail.com and you will see it posted!