Parenting guidelines - know when you are spoiling your kid

Copyright (c) 2010 Ewen Chia

Spoiling a child does not happen overnight. It usually involves a series of perpetual actions and events that parents set in place that leads to bad behavior and an overly pampered child. Parenting websites and parenting guides will tell you that it is usually not so much the fault of the child. No child is born spoilt. However, it is usually within the parent's control that determines what type of influence they want to expose their child to and also how clearly right and wrong is defined for the child.

Very often, busy parents who have to spend more time at work tend to give in to their children's demands due to the guilt of not spending enough time with them. This is a major no-no in parenting law because even though the solution is short term, it starts off the relationship of your child (if she or she is still young) and this behavior leads onwards into their teenage life. What you end up with is a kid who is demanding and knows that he can get you to do things for him using emotional blackmail.

To many people, parenting discipline often results in punishment. However, parenting discipline is not just about the end result. If parents can devise a reward and punishment system consistently and that caters to the child's level of understanding, the child slowly internalizes a moral compass to help guide him or her in decision-making.

Parenting discipline is a constant process and its goal is not to be a reward and punishment system. Ultimately, the goal of it is to train your child to know, all by themselves, what's right and what's wrong and to train him or her to automatically know that.

It is never too late to enforce parenting discipline. Parents need to sit down and decide what they want communicated to their kids. List down what actions and behaviors you want to encourage. The decisions you make today will very well play a huge part in determining what kind of a person your child grows up to become.

By the time your child grows up and starts to exhibit undesired behavior, it will be significantly harder to rectify his behavior and it will be a little too late to start implementing processes or withdrawing rewards and praises so that you do not further spoil your child. Starting when they are young usually works best.

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